Norah's bedtime routine is the same most nights (the ones when we're home, that is). We change into jammies and then Mark and I help her brush her teeth. Then she chooses one of us to rock her for a few minutes. As soon as the toothbrush comes out of her mouth, she inquires, "Woka minit?" It's a special time for us, and I think for her too. It's the only time during the day that our normally feisty, independent, warrior toddler will cuddle with us. She loves us by making and sharing and talking, not by being still. Most of the time she's just too
busy to slow down for that kind of thing. But the rules for Rock a Minute time are clear. She has to put her head down and be still or it's off to bed!
We usually spend a little bit of time talking to her while we're rocking. Saturday night, while Mark rocked her, she made her very first request. She requested the God Story. The fact that she loves it enough to ask to hear it really touched my heart. It made me feel like I needed to share it with you. Whoever you are.
I got the God Story from
this sermon, taught at the church we attended before leaving Orange County. The pastor, Mike Erre, fully admits to plagiarizing it from a friend. And now I fully admit to stealing it as well. But it's the good kind of stealing. I promise. These are important words that everyone should hear. The God Story can be changed or edited to fit your life and your relationship with the child you're telling it to. Here's how it goes when I tell it to Norah:
If God took me up to Heaven, and he told me that I could choose any little girl that I wanted to be mine, here's what I would do: I would walk past them all. Big ones, little ones, short ones and tall ones. Girls with dark hair and light hair, brown eyes and blue eyes. I would walk past them all and say, "Nope, not this one. No, she's not the one. Nope not that one either." I would walk past them all. Until I got to you.
Then I would stop. I would take one look at you and say, "She's the one. This is my little girl." Because that's how special you are. God knew that, and that's why God made you just for me. The God Story is simple. It's easily adaptable to any circumstance. Whether your child is biological or adopted, whether you are a parent, grandparent or other relative. Everyone can tell some variation of the God Story to a child.
What struck me most about my little girl's request is that she has a great life. She is surrounded constantly by family, friends and friends who might as well be family. She has Sunday School teachers and pals of all kinds. She is an incredibly secure child. This is a kid who is told by at least five people
other than her parents that she is loved
every day! Still, there's an innate desire, a
need in her to hear, in every precious detail, how special she is. That need is ingrained in all of us. We need to know that we were created the way we are for a reason. We need to
hear that from the people around us.
It breaks my heart that there are children who have never heard this. There are children in this world, in this country, in this community, in my own sphere of influence who have never heard that a loving God made them special. That they are the way they are
on purpose. There are people out there who have never heard that there exists a love that is unconditional. U-N-C-O-N-D-I-T-I-O-N-A-L.
There's one more thing I tell Norah every night when I put her to bed. I try to use the same words each time. I want it to be so embedded in her that she never thinks to doubt it. I want her to be able to repeat it to herself when she's afraid or lonely and
especially when she's about to make an important choice. It goes like this:
No matter what you do, or where you go, you'll always be my baby. No matter how big you get, or how far away you are, I will always, always love you and nothing will change that. No matter who you become, or what choices you make I will always want what's best for you. I will always be on your side.After I'd been saying that to her for about a month I was rocking my baby girl one night and repeating it again. I heard, as clearly as I've ever heard, the voice of my Heavenly Father say to me, "That's exactly how I feel about you." I won't lie. I cried that night putting my girl to bed. I know that I'm precious in His sight, his word says it over and over in a thousand different ways. Still it's nice to be reminded.
Today I began to pray that God will show me the people in my life who haven't heard, or who need to be reminded of how much they are loved. If that's you, consider this your reminder. Go back and read those words again.
That's exactly how God feels about you. For those of you who have kids or who work closely with kids, remember that you may be the only God Story they hear. If my secure, independent, feisty little girl asks for it, you'd better believe that there are a lot of kids out there who are
desperate to hear it for the first time.